A couple of weeks ago, I was at my running club and made a fairly casual comment about having to take it easy because we are in our “10 day infertility window.” After I made the comment I quickly noticed an awkward silence and some blank stares. It felt as if I had just announced that I was really a leprechaun or possibly that I had once been a lion tamer in the circus.
I initially dismissed their strange response but as the days have gone on, I keep seeing the visual of their blank stares and hearing the awkward silence and I can’t help but wonder if “infertility” is some how a dirty word.
I am pretty open about our quest to conceive. I believe that my daughter is a miracle and that God provided us the path and the medical interventions necessary to conceive her. I know that without medical interventions my chances of conceiving are very slim (barring God healing my old eggs). When people inquire about our future family plans, I will make the joke that I “pay” and pray for my babies and that I will take as many as God has planned for me.
Needless to say, I am still wondering what makes the mention of “infertility treatments” so taboo? There is current research that show that 1:4 women today experience some type of infertility or pregnancy loss. Adoption ministries and groups have public advertising. There is regular commentary on day time television about actresses that conceive through infertility treatments yet, when I mention it a group of every day women there is shock and silence.
It isn’t like I went on to explain all the personal details of an IUI procedure. I didn’t even mention it. Heck, I wasn’t even talking about my sex life, unless you consider the word “infertility” akin to sexual conduct. I only said the word “infertility.”
So, my question for my readers, Is a discussion on infertility dirty or taboo? Would it make you uncomfortable if another women mentions that she is trying to conceive through infertility treatments? Is the information just too personal to share?