In 1996 after my friend Jenny died, we placed a tall white wooden cross at the accident site. It was such a powerful healing moment. Not only did all of her friends come out to the site but the first responders who had tended to her at the accident scene also joined us. The cross… [Read More]
10 Things My Best Friend’s Death Taught Me (20 Years Later)
Twenty years ago tonight, one of my very best friends was killed by a drunk driver. It was the single most life changing event that I had experienced in my brief 21 years on the planet and has continued to impact the trajectory of my life ever since. Her brilliant short life and her untimely death held many lessons… [Read More]
Remembering Jenny – Mondays Are Always Hard
Another year has passed. It doesn’t seem like it can be 19 years since our sweet Jenny went to heaven. Some days it feels like a blink. Some days it feels like being stranded on an island with no real way to get off. Some days there are little reminders like a double rainbow or… [Read More]
Remembering – 18 Years Later
There is something completely unbelievable in knowledge that 18 years have passed. Truthfully, this May 15th has kind of crept up on me. I wanted to write something that meaningful, fresh but I have been so wrapped up in the long a dreadful process of my Mom’s move to hospice that I am just not sure I have… [Read More]
The Sun Still Shines – Remembering Jenny
May always brings about a variety of difficult emotions for me. Two years ago I wrote a series about the loss of my beautiful Jenny. Last year I wrote this piece and just couldn’t bring myself to hit publish. I am hoping that a year of distance from the bitter sweet and unexpected turn in… [Read More]
Missing the Sun
Today would be my sweet Jenny’s 38th birthday. It is hard to believe that it has been almost 17 years since she was killed by a drunk driver. Today my Facebook feed has been filled with love for her. Smiles, sunshine and joy. I can only wish, if I left this planet early, that my… [Read More]
Buzzed Driving IS Drunk Driving: Be Safe this Thanksgiving Weekend
There are few topics in which I have a zero tolerance for and one of them is driving under the influence of alcohol or drugs. There really is no safe amount of alcohol to consume and then drive a car. If you are old enough to order a beverage then you are also mature and responsible enough to… [Read More]
Come Monday: Don’t Drink & Drive
In honor and memory of Jennifer Alison Sadow December 11, 1974 – May 15, 1996 Please don’t drink and drive. Don’t let one more death. One more friend. One more daughter. One more sister. One more person. Leave this world at the hands of a drunk driver. It is up to each of us to… [Read More]
Come Monday: The Hardest Part
Today is the day. The 15 year anniversary of that fateful Wednesday night when our eternally happy Jenny was taken from us from a drunk driver. I have no interest in glorifying the crash but I do want to show how the unconditional love and friendship of one person can cause a ripple of love… [Read More]
Come Monday: The Days After
The planed landed and every person stayed seated. It was a small plane, I had to walk outside to the stairs. Betsy & Chad met me in the hallway (yes, you could do that back then.) and I am pretty sure that she and I collapsed on the floor of that airport crying for a… [Read More]